The Self-Love Formula

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Posts by Julia

What’s Your Dating Defense Mechanism?

Yup, we all have one. That boyfriend-buffering behavior we enlist when we know there’s the possibility of our hearts getting trampled. Ok, ok, I shouldn’t be so dramatic. It could just be that you throw up your walls, your excuses, your distance-enforcers when you find yourself liking someone just a wee bit too much and you’re not sure if the feeling is mutual. So what’s yours? Drinking too much when

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Backsliding: We’ve All Done It and Why You Shouldn’t

So you’ve just recently ended a dating situation, relationship, or something that deserves an “It’s Complicated” status on Facebook. I truly am sorry to hear that. We’ve all been there and it’s no fun. (If you want empathy, support, or advice, I’m here for ya, just leave a comment or email me via the contact form.) But you know what would be less fun? Backsliding. Girlfriends, resist it with every

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Make Decisions from Love, Not Fear

A friend of mine is grappling with the age-old dilemma of whether or not to take the next romantic step with a long-time friend. The chemistry is there, the solid friendship foundation is there, the timing is there. When they’re around each other, they read like one of those couples that just make sense. And I see the fear in her eyes when she talks about what it would mean

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How Technology is Ruining Your Dating Life

My (Hot, Fashionable, Smart) LA Friend: I had this amazing date with a new guy the other week, and I was even starting to like him (and you know me, I take for-evah to warm up to someone). Well, guess the feeling wasn’t mutual because he just dropped off and I hadn’t heard from him for weeks. Aaaaand, then he sends me a song via Spotify yesterday. Like, wtf does

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How to Fake Your Way To Surviving a Break Up

OR: How to get through a break up you thought you didn’t care about but you do. Oh. Hey there, relationship failure. So nice to see you again. It’s been a while. Oh, it hasn’t, you say? We were here this time last year? Hmm. Well, time certainly does fly when you’re desperately trying to fit a round peg in a square hole, doesn’t it? At any rate, glad to be back

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Don’t Fight (or Fake) the Feeling

Let’s flip the script for a minute, shall we? One instance in which you should never, ever, under ANY circumstances fake it is… An orgasm. Ha! Kidding (well, not really, but I can address that later if you’d like). No, real talk though: You can’t fake your intuition. You know, your red-flag-radar, your bullshit-ometer, your He’s-The-One-I-Just-Know-It indicator. That saintly sister inside tells you like it is, like it should be and sometimes

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